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A man should show interest and put in some effort to get to know a woman. That’s fine. However, when you keep chasing a woman who deliberately ignores you, doesn’t reply to your messages, and behaves like you’re lesser, that’s unhealthy.

Indeed, man should show desire. But when desire becomes desperation, that’s not a good place to be.

Here’s the thing most men fail to understand about chasing women: Even if you finally succeed in getting a woman after a long exhausting chase, you’ll end up creating the wrong relationship dynamic for yourself.

In other words, you’ll most likely always be the lesser one in the relationship, always begging for attention and picking up the crumbs of love that your partner leaves once in a while. That said, here are 4 hard truths about chasing women that most men don’t realize.

1. You’ll finish the same way you started

Maybe you’ve seen rare situations where a guy chased a woman for a long time and finally got her.

But the hard truth about most situations like this is that she probably didn’t fall for the man because the long chase sold her so much. Rather, she might have given in because at some point she realized she didn’t have a better option anymore. And this rarely leads to a fulfilling or balanced relationship for the man. You end up being the one to always make things work.

Here’s the thing.

You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you too. And if they don’t, you’ve got to be able to walk away. This is the difference between a simp and a genuinely good guy. Simps don’t have self-respect or personal boundaries. They let girls walk over them and get away with anything.

A genuinely good guy, on the other hand, knows what he wants and understands how he should be treated. And when he realizes that things are not working out, he is sensitive and secure enough to let go.

If you are unable to walk away from someone that is not benefiting you or reciprocating your time, effort, and energy, you have no self-respect.

Sure, if you want something you should work for it. But when it comes to people and relationships, it shouldn’t be just you doing the work. The other person has to work for you too.

Interesting Read: How To Make A Girl Chase You Without Talking (Psychology)

2. You’re not seeing reality

Sometimes girls do play hard to get, and it can be annoying when this happens. But in most cases, when a girl says she doesn’t like you or doesn’t give you any sign that she does, it’s probably because she doesn’t.

If you’ve expressed how you feel to a girl, the ball is in her court, and it’s up to her to decide what she wants to do. You’ve made your stance very clear. And if she tells you or insinuates that she doesn’t like you, you have to be able to let go.

Here’s a hard truth: The major reason most guys get quickly obsessed with a girl even before they know her is because they’ve projected many things onto her already. They’ve seen she’s beautiful, so they imagine she’s also smart, funny, and also fun to be with.

The truth is, if you really learn to see people for who they are, you won’t get hooked so quickly. You’ll understand that no one’s perfect. And that sooner or later, you will have to tolerate her deficiencies like any other human you’ve ever met. A mindset like this will give you a sense of detachment and a greater feel for reality.

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