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When a woman pulls away, it’s instinctive to chase her.

But as we all must have learned through experience, chasing a woman ― or anyone ― especially when she’s pulling away only pushes her further away.

Indeed, it’s frustrating when things turn around with a woman who’s started off totally into you.

She sends you flirty texts in the middle of the day, and she’s available whenever you want to hang out, but all of a sudden, she gets distant.

She begins to take up to two days to reply to your text. And when you ask her to hang out, you hear excuses like, “Ooh… I can’t make it; it’s my cousin’s birthday party today.”

Her attitude catches you off balance and in your quest to get her back, you push her further away.

These four mistakes, for the most part, are instinctive, and as such totally understandable. Most guys have resorted to them at one point to get their women to pay attention to them again.

1. Desperate Confessions

When a woman pulls back, the first mistake most men make is that they begin to confess their feelings. They assume, “If she only knew how I felt, she would stay.” Or, “If she only knew how much I liked her, she would like me back.”

For some reason, most men are convinced that when a girl pulls away from them, it’s because they didn’t make her feel like they liked her or took her seriously enough.

But here’s the thing they don’t understand: Uncertainty in a woman’s eyes is attractive. In other words, she’s more likely to stick around or find you stimulating when there’s still some mystery about you.

As Robert Greene wrote in The Art of Seduction,

“Your greatest power in seduction lies in your ability to turn away.”

When a woman finds you too obvious and predictable, she pulls back a little bit to allow herself some breathing room.

Unfortunately for most men, when women do this, they begin to do more of the exact thing that made her pull away in the first place.

They start to chase her, intensifying their confessions of romantic interest, assuming it will make her look at him in a different light. But this, of course, makes her feel more suffocated.

The thing is, when a woman wants some space, she just wants some time to figure out if you’re really who she wants.

And as instinctive as it might feel, that’s not the time to add more pressure, telling her how special she is, or how much you can’t do with her.

Interesting: 7 Big Mistakes Men Make When Texting a Woman

2. Explanation mode

Imagine the following scenario: A guy gets asked to hang out by his woman on a Friday night, he declines. Instead, he decides to hang out with his friends ― maybe because of a really important baseball game, or something else.

One week later, all of a sudden his woman begins to pull away. Now, in the guy’s mind, he needs to find an explanation and a possible solution to this dilemma fast.

And in his attempt to play detective and look through all the possible mistakes he must have made during the week, remembers the case where he refused to go out with her.

He then launches into explanation mode. Instinctively, he begins to text her, saying things like “I’m sorry I didn’t hang out with you last week. I really wanted to, but my friends…”

This, however, will most likely make her pull further away. You shouldn’t apologize when you did nothing wrong.

If you’ve done something wrong, or said something insulting to your woman, by all means, apologize.

But when you start apologizing or explaining yourself especially for things that were not really wrong, that’s panicking, and it makes you come across as weak in a woman’s eyes.

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