Attraction Diary

3. Don’t make bigger problems from it

When most women find out that their man doesn’t appear to miss or crave them anymore, their first instinct is to get worried about why it’s happening. 

They wonder if it’s their fault, or if their man has found someone else. And the more they think about the situation, the more they are tempted to find evidence or confront their man about how he’s no longer how he used to be.  

Though there’s nothing wrong with calling him out on what’s happening, some women go about this the wrong way. 

Instead of discussing it with him in a calm manner, they nag and complain about it. And the more they complain to him, the worse and more frustrated he becomes because he now sees you as the nagging partner. 

Hence, the first step is to resist the urge to make things escalate with insistent complaints. This, of course, isn’t an easy thing to do. And this also isn’t to say that discussing the problem with him is a bad idea. 

However, if you’ve presented your case maturely and respectfully, don’t follow it up with complaints about him not missing you, that will only escalate into bigger problems. 

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4. Resist the urge to go after him

When a woman notices that her man is pulling away, there’s a strong urge to go after him. 

For instance, if she notices that he doesn’t initiate conversations anymore, she may become worried, and in her attempt to keep his attention, she will want to text him more. 

She will initiate conversations all the time, hoping that this will keep him interested because she doesn’t want to lose him. But here’s the thing: 

If a man pulls away or stops initiating contact with you don’t fall into the trap of chasing him. If you want someone to miss you, you can’t be the one initiating contact all the time. 

This, however, doesn’t mean that you ignore him. Don’t just be the one to always initiate the good morning call or text. Let your silence speak to him. When he notices how you have changed, he’ll miss the times when things were intimate between the two of you. 

Giving man space gives him so much time to see how valuable you are to him. Sometimes being in a long-term relationship can make you lose sight of the value in your partner. 

As that saying goes, it’s when you lose a thing that you see its value. Just make him work a little for your attention and he’ll see your value again.