“Being a girl isn’t easy. Imagine waiting for a reply without sending a text.”
Most of us don’t put much thought into the texting part of dating. In fact, we often believe texts should only be used to get someone to see you in person.
Whatever your thoughts are on texting, the truth is, if you don’t know what you’re doing, you can unknowingly make some mistakes that could cost you a great relationship.
Hence, without further ado, if you want to have a more successful dating life, here are five mistakes you should avoid making when texting.
1. Playing the “I’m busy” texting game
Most people believe that texting back immediately makes them look needy.
And in their attempt to appear like they have a bunch of things going on in their lives, they deliberately ignore texts or wait for the other person to text first.
This is a terrible mind game.
There’s no reason why you should deliberately wait for 5 hours or a day to reply to a text from someone you’ve been dying to hear from all day. If the text came in when you were busy, that’s a different case.
Texting is only enjoyable when the conversation flows back and forth. Besides, if you’re an adult, you really cannot be so sure the next time someone will be free.
If you ignore that text and wait for 7 hours before replying, he or she might take another four hours before getting a chance to reply to you. And that’s how the cycle of a boring forgettable conversation starts.
This, however, doesn’t mean you should stick beside your phone and anticipate a text from someone.
The idea here is to make it natural. If you get the text when you’re free to chat, then have fun chatting. It doesn’t make you needy.
If someone thinks you’re of lesser value simply because you reply to their text on time, then the problem is with them, not you.
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2. Unbalanced texting
Whether it’s someone you’re trying to ask out on a date, or someone you’re already dating, over texting doesn’t do any good in the long run.
For instance, you want to ask a girl out on a date. But you keep texting her for days or weeks on end, trying to build a connection with her, which isn’t a bad thing.
But if you never ask her out to engage in person, things are going to get boring, and she might lose interest even before you ask.
Don’t get comfortable with just texting. Balance your communication between texting and in-person meetings. Even better, frequently use texting to set up chances to hook up.
There’s so much more you can do with someone when they are with you. You get to have the shared experiences that you’ll talk about when you’re not together.
It’s those shared experiences that will make them miss you when you’re not with them.