To have a healthy and sustainable relationship, you need to go for a woman who knows herself. Indeed, they may be harder to get, but they’ll make your life better in the long run.
It’s tempting to want to go for an insecure person. After all, they are easy to get. But what about the long run? Can you keep up with their drama?
The primary reason why the types of women in this list cheat is because of insecurity. It’s either they have an incessant need for attention and validation that you cannot keep up with, or they are just too obsessed with getting free gifts from as many guys as possible.
But how can you spot these types of women on time to avoid the emotional turmoil they might cause in the long run? Pay attention to these five traits.
1. The insatiable queen
At first, being with an insecure lady might seem great. Why? She will shower you with all her attention and most likely make you the center of her universe, of course with the expectation that you’ll make her yours as well.
But as time passes, an insecure lady will start seeking more attention than you can afford. She’ll always want to be around you or your friends.
Maybe she’s been cheated on in the past, and now she feels the same thing will happen again if she doesn’t take control. She becomes desperate to be a part of your life in an invasive way. And on top of this, she blames her insecurity on you, always accusing you but also refusing to face the reality of the aspects of her nature she should work on.
Here’s the gist of the problem:
It’s impossible to keep up with an insecure woman because life requires your attention too. You can’t just go all in and give a hundred percent of your attention to a woman. If you do, you will fall short on your purpose, goals, family, and many other important aspects of your life.
Even if you’re able to give her the attention she seeks at the beginning, when you get suffocated and start refocusing on work, goals, or your family, she will most likely try to get attention from elsewhere.
She will begin to gravitate towards other men, making you feel guilty for not giving her your attention.
2. The seasonal lover
Another sign that a woman can end up cheating on you is when she uses you as her monetary resource. She assumes you have to give to her to get her attention.
The hard truth is, a lot of men do think that they have to give to beautiful women to get their attention. They assume that the more they shower her with free gifts, the better they’ll prove that they are the best men out there. The reality, however, is far from this.
When a guy meets a girl and starts to shower her with expensive gifts from the first week, it’s like you’re trying to say “I’m not that valuable by myself, so I have to make up for it.”
Here’s the thing: It’s a basic law of human psychology that we tend to appreciate something more when we work for it. This is why men who think they have to shower a woman with gifts to get her attention are wrong. You’ll end up building a superficial relationship where your woman will only see you as her ATM.
She might lie about wanting your relationship to grow to keep you at arm’s reach while still refusing to be intimate with you.