Asking a girl to be your girlfriend can be daunting, even for naturally confident people. There is something about expressing feelings that can quickly get you tongue-tied.
Whether you are a newbie or have been in the dating game for a while, sometimes the same nerves plague you. You go over everything that could go wrong repeatedly in your mind until you have lost hope of ever being with the girl you like.
Chin, up. Here are some great tips on how to ask a girl to be your girlfriend.
1. The trick that makes you stand out
This is probably the most overlooked step in asking a girl to be your girlfriend.
The Cambridge dictionary defines being confident as “being certain of your abilities”. This implies that to successfully ask a girl to be your girlfriend, you need to believe in your ability to ask, and I daresay not only ask but also be the most exceptional boyfriend.
One thing that happens when you have this certainty in your abilities is that you become mentally assured, and your attitude gains a boost. This isn’t about arrogance or boasting.
It’s about seeing yourself as a high-value man who has something to bring to the table. You don’t chase, nor are you apprehensive about the answer she will give you. You’re just a great guy looking for a good lady to share an experience with.
Simple things like dressing well, living a life you’re proud of, etc., can increase your confidence.
2. The importance of timing
Most of us have been in situations where we said something too soon, too late, or in the most awkward circumstances. Timing can determine the outcome of your request when you ask a girl to be your girlfriend.
If the girl you like is someone you already have a connection with, you may have an idea of when would be the best time to have this conversation with her. That being said, you may need to create the moment.
Strike a casual conversation with her, create the right atmosphere and let her response lead you to your following action. Studies show that broaching this topic with them after two months of knowing a person is acceptable.
In addition to this, be guided by the girl’s response to your previous interactions. If she has not been receptive or has barely cracked a smile in your presence, you might need to wait longer.