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3. Warm-Up Her Friends
Girls pay a lot of attention to how their circle of friends sees their boyfriends.
Even if a girl likes you but her friends think you’re a douchebag, she may not have the courage to tell them about you, let alone date you.
Hence, you want to be the guy that most girls want to be with.
Here’s a little secret: One of the major reasons so many ladies troop around celebrities is because they already know that most people desire them. As Robert Greene interestingly wrote in The Art of Seduction,
“Desire is both imitative (we like what others like) and competitive (we want to take away from others what they have). As children, we wanted to monopolize the attention of a parent, to draw it away from other siblings. This sense of rivalry… makes people compete for the attention.”
Our ego makes us want to have to ourselves what other people already want. Using this idea to your advantage is simple. All you have to do is deliberately make yourself more desirable.
Up your game. Get into shape. Get your life together. Look good. Learn the body language that makes you charismatic. Be someone she will want her friends to see her with.
4. The Importance Of Independence
Broadly speaking, there are two types of guys. Which type are you?
Some will do anything to stick around a girl that they like. They don’t mind how she treats them or whether or not she cares about them. They’ll always stick around because they think they are good guys.
And maybe someday, she’ll finally love them back.
There’s another group who are also nice but have their boundaries. These guys know how they should be treated and are always ready to leave if they need to.
When a lady knows that you are willing to let her go if she pushes you, she will make efforts to keep you around. It may be hard to believe, no lady wants to be your only priority.
She wants to know you’re staying around because she’s worth it, not just because you don’t have other options. Being able to let go shows independence and self-reliance. Remember, if she knows she can always have you around, your value reduces in her eyes.
Subtly make her know you have options. You are not afraid to walk away when the need arises.
Also read: Why Girls Like Bad Boys, According to Psychologists
5. Create The Right Dynamic
Here’s a hard truth: When it comes to building initial attraction, most women are used to men doing all the work.
They are used to guys finding the perfect thing to say to keep the conversation going. They’ve gotten used to guys taking the blame if the date wasn’t fun enough. But these are the sort of guys women will never chase, and you don’t want to be that guy.
If you want a woman to come to you, you have to create the right dynamic with her. Make her do some work herself. When out on a date, wait for her to come up with a topic when there’s silence.
Don’t always be the one to text first. Once in a while, wait and see if she will initiate a conversation. This will not just help create the right dynamic, it will also help you know whether or not she’s interested in building anything with you in the first place.
Final Thoughts
The one thing that will guarantee a girl will not chase you is when you’re desperate and needy.
Most guys look for mind games when they’re searching for how to make a girl chase them. But looking for mind games is another form of desperation.
Here’s a simple truth: The guys who succeed in getting girls to chase them don’t do it because they are masters at playing psychological games. They can do it simply because they know their worth.
People tend to see you through your own eyes. If you behave like you’re the prize, that you’re not willing to sacrifice your value, pride, and dignity to please anyone, girls will see your authenticity and respect you for it.
Interesting: 7 Psychological Tricks to Make A Girl Obsessed With You
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