So, you’re into this guy and you’ve been chatting over text for a while now, right? You think he might be into you too, but he hasn’t said it outright.
You’re at the edge of your seat every time your phone buzzes with a new message, secretly hoping it’s him finally confessing his feelings. Well, I totally get it, and I’m here to help.
To get a guy to admit his feelings for you over text, you simply need to learn how to make him feel comfortable, appreciated, and genuinely special. Yes, it’s as simple (and as complex!) as that. But don’t worry, we’ll take it one step at a time.
1. Create An Atmosphere of Trust and Honesty
The first strategy is all about building trust. Forget tricks or games; genuine connections are built on honesty. Trust doesn’t develop in a day; it’s a process that requires patience. So, remember to take it slow.
Starting with casual conversations, share a bit about yourself, your interests, your day, your favorite book, or even a silly pet story.
The aim is to show him that you are open, approachable, and trustworthy. When he feels comfortable enough, he may start opening up to you, bit by bit.
This may seem like a slow process, but it’s worth the wait. It provides him with the space to understand his feelings and to express them when he is ready.
When he starts sharing his dreams or the little details about his day, it’s a sign that he trusts you. That’s when you know your patience is starting to pay off.
2. Use Light-hearted Teasing
Teasing, when done right, can serve as an excellent strategy. It’s fun, playful, and can help lighten the mood. Who knows, he might even find your cheekiness attractive!
Begin with something small and silly that both of you share a laugh about. The aim here is to bring a smile to his face, not to make him feel embarrassed or awkward.
Keeping it light is key. Your playful banter might just make his day, and who knows, it may also get him to admit his feelings for you!
However, do remember the balance. Teasing should be playful and fun, not hurtful or constant. Overdoing it could cause the opposite effect of what you want. Strike the right balance, and it could lead to him feeling comfortable enough to confess his feelings.
3. Leverage Subtle Compliments
Compliments are a sure-shot way of making anyone’s day better. And it’s not just limited to compliments about physical appearance. Compliment him about his intelligence, his sense of humor, his kindness, or anything else that you genuinely admire.
Receiving such positive feedback can make him feel good about himself, and more importantly, it can make him feel good about texting you.
Remember, you aim to make him associate you with positive feelings. Compliments can play a huge role in this.
But, be careful not to lay it on too thick. It’s essential to keep it genuine and subtle. A well-timed compliment that feels organic and sincere can be the push he needs to admit his feelings for you.
4. Show Genuine Interest In His Life
This might seem like an obvious one, but it’s surprising how much it can affect someone’s feelings towards you. Showing interest in his life, his interests, his dreams, and his fears tells him that you care.
Ask him about his day or how his big presentation at work went. When he shares his interests with you, show enthusiasm. Ask him more about it. The idea is to show him that you genuinely care about his life and his experiences.
Doing this not only makes him feel valued and understood, but it also makes him more likely to reciprocate the feelings. So, the more interest you show in him, the more likely he is to admit that he likes you.
5. Make Him Miss You
This one is all about balance. While you want to be present in his life and show interest, you also want to give him the space to miss you. And in the world of texting, this could mean not responding immediately to every text or not initiating conversation all the time.
You could wait a bit before responding to his texts, or you could occasionally skip initiating a conversation. The aim here is not to play hard to get, but rather to make him realize that he enjoys talking to you and misses you when you’re not around.
When he starts initiating conversations more often or when he expresses that he missed your texts, that’s a good sign that he likes you.
6. Use Emojis Wisely
Emojis can add a touch of emotion or humor to any text conversation. But, did you know they can also play a part in getting a guy to admit he likes you?
Using emojis like the blushing face or the heart eyes emoji can subtly hint at your feelings towards him. If he starts reciprocating with similar emojis, it’s a sign that he might like you.
Again, balance is crucial here. While emojis can be fun and expressive, overusing them can make the conversation seem superficial or childish. Use them wisely, and they can help in expressing feelings without using words.
7. Throw In Some Flirting
A little bit of flirting can go a long way in making him realize that you’re interested.
Whether it’s through a playful text or a compliment, flirting helps break the ice and makes the conversation more exciting. And when the conversation is exciting, he’s more likely to look forward to your texts.
The key to successful flirting is to keep it light and fun. If he responds positively to your flirty texts, it’s a good sign that he likes you too.
8. Be Supportive
This one is straightforward. If he’s having a bad day or going through a tough time, be there for him. Let him know that you’re there to listen and support him.
Showing support during his tough times can bring you closer and make him realize how much you care. And that might just be the nudge he needs to admit his feelings for you.
9. Keep Things Positive
When it comes to texting, keeping the conversation upbeat can make a huge difference. After all, no one wants to be around a negative Nancy!
Positive conversations give good vibes and happy feelings, increasing the chances that he will admit his feelings for you. Remember, your aim is to be the person he looks forward to texting. Being positive can play a huge role in this.
Even when he’s having a bad day, try to keep the conversation light and comforting. Be the person who can make him smile even on his worst days. This positivity can be the push he needs to admit that he likes you.
10. Be Yourself
Pretending to be someone you’re not is not a sustainable strategy, and it’s not fair to either of you.
Let your conversations reflect who you truly are. Let him fall for the real you. After all, if he admits his feelings for you, it should be for the real you, not a version you pretended to be.
Being yourself also allows you to gauge if he’s the right guy for you. If he likes you for who you are, it’s a sign that he might be worth the effort.
Remember, everyone’s different. What works for one person might not work for another. So take these strategies as a guide, not a rulebook.
Be patient, be understanding, and most importantly, enjoy the process! Love is a beautiful journey, even if it starts with a simple text message.
1. What if the guy doesn’t respond positively to my texts?
It can be disappointing when someone doesn’t respond positively to your texts. But remember, not every strategy works for every person. It’s important to pay attention to how he reacts and adjust your approach accordingly.
If he seems disinterested or distant, it may be best to take a step back and give him some space. If he’s genuinely interested, he will reach out when he’s ready.
Keep in mind that it’s equally important to protect your feelings and well-being. If his responses are consistently negative or non-existent, it might be a sign to move on.
2. How can I tell if he likes me through his texts?
If he’s engaging in the conversation, asking about your day, or sending you texts first thing in the morning or last thing at night, those are good signs. Also, if he’s opening up to you about his life and interests, it could mean he trusts you and possibly likes you.
However, texts can often be misinterpreted, and they’re not always a reliable way of understanding someone’s feelings. It’s always best to have an open and honest conversation about your feelings when you feel the time is right.
3. What should I avoid when texting him?
Firstly, don’t be overly pushy or needy. Everyone needs their space, even in a digital context. Secondly, try not to bombard him with texts. If he’s not responding immediately, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s ignoring you. He might just be busy.
Also, respect his boundaries. If there’s a topic he’s uncomfortable with, avoid bringing it up frequently. And finally, avoid pretending to be someone you’re not. Authenticity is key to a genuine connection.
4. How do I get him to ask me out over text?
If you’ve been texting for a while and feel that he might like you too, you might be waiting for him to take the next step and ask you out. To encourage this, you could hint at activities you both enjoy or places you’d like to visit.
For example, if you both love movies, you could mention a new movie that’s just been released.
But if you feel the need to take the initiative and you’re comfortable with it, there’s no harm in asking him out yourself.
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