After your usual round of sex, you reach out to hold him, only to realize he had rolled to the other side of the bed and was on his phone.
But things were never like that between you two. As much as you enjoy a toe-curling orgasm, you also cherish the cuddling and small talks that follow right after.
Lately, this hasn’t been happening.
“Baby, is something wrong?” You ask, clutching the sheets to your chest and sliding over to him. He makes an offhand grunt at the back of his throat and continues to press his phone.
You start to quiz him about his recent attitude and how cold he had been towards you. Instead of allaying your fears, he complains of your nagging and leaves the room, banging the door shut behind him.
You cry, not because of what just happened, but because of the series of events leading to this final debacle. Recently, the conversation has been stilted. Your man has become very withdrawn, the sex cold and hurried; it was all a mess.
No more late-night conversations, random hugs, kisses, nothing!
If we want to jump to a conclusion, we would say he doesn’t love you anymore, but let’s not get ahead of ourselves.
No one enjoys a lack of reciprocity in relationships, and there are signs you should watch out for if you suspect this. It might be painful to notice these signs and act on them, but ignoring them is a sure ticket to getting your heart broken.
I have listed 10 important signs he doesn’t love you anymore.
1. A decline in communication
Communication is key in every aspect of life. A man who loves you will always be eager to communicate his feelings to you clearly and effectively.
And when his connection with you dwindles, it is one sure sign that something is wrong.
Communication is a collaborative effort that demands input from both partners. If you notice it is becoming one-sided, that’s a huge danger sign.
Before taking any drastic step, sit your man down and relay your fears to him. Often, this lack of communication can be caused by other issues that aren’t related to his feelings. You should figure this out as soon as possible.
However, if you realize that the underlying cause isn’t tangible, you have a man who doesn’t love you anymore.
2. Your gut tells you
According to a 2008 study in the British Psychology Journal, intuition is what happens when your brain draws on past experiences to make decisions.
What does this mean for you?
It means, subconsciously, your brain compares your man’s past treatment of you (past experiences) to the current situation and then comes to a conclusion based on this information.
If your gut tells you your man doesn’t love you anymore, there is a high chance of this being true. Since time immemorial, our gut instincts have played a large role in intuition, and it is something we should never play with.
This gut feeling might come without evidence or backing, but it will be very persistent and convincing.
3. He is not interested in your life
He used to be so interested in your day, asking a thousand and one questions about how it went, what you ate, that troublesome coworker you always complain about, everything.
But lately, it’s like he doesn’t care anymore. He shows absolutely no interest in your life, your family, or your friends.
Even when you proceed to tell without waiting for him to ask, you can see the lack of participation in his eyes. These are clear signs he doesn’t love you anymore. It might hurt to admit, but it’s true.
4. He stopped including you in his decisions
From simple decisions like spending time with friends after work to complex ones like moving across the country to see his family, your man doesn’t consult you or seek your opinion.
You must be wary of a man that makes any decision without telling you.
For a relationship to work, couples have to be in sync. Once you start to notice a total withdrawal in his willingness to involve you in his daily activities, it simply means he doesn’t love you anymore.
Interesting: 10 Sure Signs He’s Fighting His Feelings For You
5. He avoids spending time with you
When a man doesn’t love you anymore, watch him start giving excuses to avoid hanging out with you.
Not only will he make a conscious effort not to see you, but he will also thwart every endeavor you make to see him.
You don’t need a soothsayer for this. A man that loves you will whine if you both have to spend the whole day apart. When he starts going days with no sign that he misses you, then something is wrong.
6. The signs that he doesn’t care anymore
While we love it when our men go all out for us, the little things matter too. The way he kisses your forehead when he’s about to leave for work, the butt slaps when he walks past you in the kitchen, the frequent calls throughout the day, all these show concern and care.
When you start to miss all these little displays, it shows withdrawal on his part. Either your man has fallen out of love with you, or he’s on a fast track there.
7. The “I need some space” body language
Whew! This is the scariest one.
We all know that when men hit us with “I need some space”, the relationship seldom remains the same. It is just a pre-breakup phase that occurs when he’s too anxious or cowardly to break up outrightly.
We’re not kids; we understand the need for healthy space in a relationship. In the honeymoon phase, it is okay to be all over each other 24/7, but with time, we need to let each other breathe and be themselves.
However, it becomes a problem when your man takes advantage of this to drift further away from you.
It is not okay for your man to go AWOL for weeks just because he needs space. It’s not okay for him to leave your calls and messages unanswered because he needs space. It is emotional abuse and one of the biggest signs he doesn’t love you anymore.
Also read: 8 Signs He’s Slowly Falling In Love With You
8. He finds it difficult to say he loves you
For women in these one-sided relationships, you’re familiar with that pause, that hesitation.
You hate it, but it’s there. When you tell him you love him, he waits a few seconds and uncomfortably clears his throat before saying it back.
Sometimes, he doesn’t even say it at all!
You know it’s not right, but you’re trying to look over the signs. Please, don’t.
There should be no hesitancy, no indecision. One thing about a man in love is that he would be very sure of you. If he wants you, you will know.
Don’t make excuses for him if he acts otherwise.
9. He’s texting other girls
Agh, this one is quite a staple amongst men when they’re losing interest. They start to flirt with other women, relegating you to the background.
You will notice suspicious behavior like the sudden need to leave the room when he wants to take a call, changes in his device password, fidgeting when you handle his phone, and the list goes on.
When you finally catch him texting the other lady, he is already prepared with justifications. It’s either she’s a distant cousin, just a friend, or an overly friendly coworker; there is a limitless archive of these uncreative excuses.
Of all the signs he doesn’t love you anymore, this is one you should never ignore. Cheating does not only mean he has lost interest; it also signifies disrespect, which you should never tolerate.
10. You easily irritate him
I saved this one for last because I was stalling. I have PTSD just from writing about it, but I won’t leave it out because I want everyone to learn something from this.
Ladies, if your man develops intense anger issues out of the blues, you need to put your running shoes on and skedaddle. I know it’s easier said than done, but this is one of the most disturbing signs he doesn’t love you anymore. Take it from someone who has been there.
In my case, being around him was like walking on eggshells. I had to be careful not to talk too much, stay too close, or laugh too much. I was scared of him at some point because I couldn’t tell when he would snap and go off.
I left the relationship feeling broken and unworthy because I wanted to stay and fix it.
When it gets like this, I’m sorry, you have to leave.
Don’t fix it; just leave.
Can I be totally honest with you? It’s really painful to see your relationship failing, but if you refuse to acknowledge these signs and work on it, the pain will double in the long run.
Ladies love making excuses for their men, which is not bad, but if you’re on the internet searching for signs that he doesn’t love you anymore, that is the biggest sign.
Life is too short to waste waiting for a man to realize your worth. You are too precious for that. Yes, you will hurt. You will cry and get your heart broken, but always remember to pick yourself back up and never be afraid to love again.