Being a dominant man can feel incredibly empowering and fulfilling. This is because having a strong sense of control over your life gives you a sense of confidence and self-assuredness that is hard to beat.
For starters, you’ll know what you want, and you’ll not be afraid to go after it, no matter what obstacles may stand in your way.
Also, being dominant can make you highly attractive to others, both romantically and professionally. Your charisma and assertiveness can make you stand out from the crowd because people are drawn to your commanding presence and leadership qualities.
That said, dominant men are rare, and this is because being dominant goes beyond just looking masculine. It has more to do with your character. If you want to understand how to spot truly dominant men, read on.
Have you ever met someone who just radiates confidence and charisma because they have a distinct sense of style, personality, or perspective?
Maybe it’s the guy who always wears bold colors or patterns, or the one who speaks up in meetings even when his ideas are unconventional.
Whatever it is, there’s something compelling about someone comfortable being themselves, even if it means standing out from the crowd. And it’s a strong sign of dominance.
Of course, individuality doesn’t mean being a contrarian or rejecting everything that’s mainstream. It’s more about finding your voice, values, and passions, and embracing them with confidence and pride.
This can be challenging because it requires a level of self-awareness and introspection, as well as the willingness to take risks and face criticism or rejection. But the point is, being true to yourself is one of the most empowering and fulfilling things you can do as a man.
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Think about some of the most successful, ambitious people you know around you, you’ll realize that most of them are dominant.
This is because achieving your dreams often entails that you believe strongly in yourself. You need to stand up straight and work hard on something even if you’re not sure it’s going to be a success.
In a way, the ambitious nature of dominant men also has a lot to do with their psychology. You see, when you’re dominant, you want to be on top of things.
Imagine a dominant man being broke, it wouldn’t add up. This is partly the reason for their high drive and ambition. They want to stay on top partly because of their high need to dominate.
Show me a mediocre man and I’ll show you a man who has no drive to be dominant.
Assertiveness reflects a level of confidence and self-assurance.
When a man is assertive, he communicates his thoughts and feelings clearly and directly without being overly aggressive or passive. He takes charge of situations and makes decisions based on his judgment, rather than relying on others to tell him what to do.
And assertiveness can be a valuable trait in different contexts such as in the workplace, in social situations, or personal relationships.
In the workplace, for instance, an assertive man will be more likely to speak up in meetings, take on leadership roles, or negotiate for better pay or working conditions.
In social situations, he’ll approach and engage with others, make plans or suggest activities, or express his opinions and preferences with confidence.
Even in their relationships, assertive men are more likely to communicate their needs and boundaries and advocate for themselves and their partners.
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Leadership often involves taking charge of things, making decisions, and inspiring others to follow your lead.
It requires a combination of confidence, vision, and interpersonal skills to navigate complex challenges and achieve success. That’s why being a good leader is a key sign that a man is dominant.
Being dominant makes you communicate your ideas and goals with clarity and conviction, which can inspire others to trust and follow your lead.
Plus, when you exude confidence, you’re more likely to get the respect and belief of your followers. Why?
You’ll make decisions quickly and decisively, rather than second-guessing yourself and getting bogged down in indecision.
5. He’s decisive
Making decisions is often difficult because it entails taking risks. If your decisions go sideways, you get to bear the consequences. This is why most people are afraid to make major life decisions.
But a dominant man thinks differently.
In a tough situation where you need to make a decision quickly, but you’re not sure what to do, a dominant man would step in and confidently make the call, even if it means he might be wrong.
This level of certainty and conviction can be incredibly attractive to others, and as we’ve discussed, it is a key trait for effective leadership.
The captain of the team needs to be decisive when it comes to making important calls during the game. If he hesitates or wavers in his decision-making, it can harm the team’s performance and ultimately, their chances of winning.
Dominance and independence go hand in hand. You can’t take charge of your life if you’re still looking up to people for validation and assurance. This is why every dominant man out there is independent at his core.
And independence isn’t just about being a lone wolf. It means having an independent mind. It entails that you can think and make decisions for yourself. You’re not overly bothered about living up to the standards of your peers. You do what feels right. You own your life.
Competitive people believe in themselves. But it goes beyond that. It also means that you have enough emotional intelligence to be able to withstand the pain that comes from defeat.
People who compete don’t compete just because they know they can’t fail. They compete because failure doesn’t bother them. A dominant man has a strong sense of self, and as a result, is driven to compete even when the odds are stacked against him.
We all always love it when we come across someone who says things as they are. They’re not afraid of confrontation or offending anybody.
A direct man is someone who communicates in a clear, concise, and straightforward manner, without beating around the bush or sugar coating things. He doesn’t waste time on small talk or vague hints – he simply tells it like it is.
If he’s interested in a woman, for instance, he shoots his shot.
You see this trait being displayed by dominant men, especially in high-stakes situations like negotiations or debates.
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9. Dominant men are protective
He feels a sense of responsibility towards his loved ones. And this makes him instinctively take action to ensure they’re safe from harm.
Whether it’s by being physically present to ward off potential dangers or by offering emotional support during difficult times, he takes the responsibility to protect.
However, sometimes there can also be negative aspects to this trait. When taken to an extreme, protectiveness can become controlling or stifling, as the dominant man may try to dictate every decision his partner makes.
10. Dominance in social situations
You can easily spot a man’s authority by how they handle themselves in social interactions. They are usually characterized by firm handshakes, strong eye contact, attentiveness, and charisma.
You cannot see a dominant man fidgeting in social interactions. They also tend to dress in a way they’re comfortable with. It doesn’t have to be a suit. Just something that expresses their style. This makes them easy going, relaxed, and fun to be around.
11. Sometimes they may be resistant to authority
When we think of a dominant man, we picture someone assertive, decisive, and self-assured. But one trait that can sometimes go hand-in-hand with confidence is resistance to authority.
Now, I’m not saying that being dominant means being outrightly rebellious or disrespectful towards authority figures.
However, someone confident in their abilities and decision-making is less likely to follow orders without question, especially if they feel strongly that there is a better way to do things.
In some situations, being resistant to authority can be a sign of independence and critical thinking.
Rather than blindly following the crowd or caving to pressure from superiors, dominant men stand up for their beliefs and values, even if it means going against the norm or challenging those in positions of power.
This can manifest in a variety of ways, such as having a strong and fit physique, standing tall and making eye contact with others, or using body language to convey confidence and assertiveness.
For many men, physicality is a way to feel powerful and in control of their environment. It can be a way to show others that they are capable, competent, and able to handle whatever challenges come their way.
But it goes beyond that. Physicality also entails how a man carries himself.
A confident man moves with purpose and energy, whether that’s through a strong stride or an assertive handshake. And they often have a natural grace or athleticism that comes from being comfortable in their body.
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Real men don’t put on a facade or try too hard to impress them.
Rather, they’re comfortable in their skin. And because of this, they’re able to connect with others on a deeper level. They can command attention, influence others, and leave a lasting impression.
But charisma is not just about being a smooth talker. It’s also about having a strong sense of self and being authentic in your interactions with others.
People with charisma are often very comfortable in their skin, and they have a sense of purpose that comes across in their words and actions.
14. They have high standards
A dominant man values himself. He won’t settle for a relationship where he isn’t respected or valued. He knows what he brings to the table, and he’s confident enough to also demand the same from his partner and even his friends.
And he does this partly because he knows himself. But more importantly, he does it because he understands that he deserves happiness and respect. And he won’t settle for anyone who will treat him less than he is.
15. He doesn’t talk too much
People who talk too much can easily come off as immature. They leave nothing for people to anticipate or wonder about them. There’s no mystery to unravel.
Dominant men always have that aura of calmness and patience. Because they know themselves, they’re not quick to take the spotlight and blab about everything going on with them.
When we hear dominance, what usually comes to mind is a huge man with a big voice. But that’s just a tiny part of it. In fact, some men don’t have a big stature but are still dominant.
Hence, if you want to be more dominant, build your character and sense of self. It all starts from within.