Growing up, I was always the awkward kid with braces and glasses, and let’s just say puberty didn’t exactly do me any favors.
So, when it comes to talking about my own attractiveness, let’s just say that I’m not exactly brimming with self-confidence.
But the thing is, I’ve come to realize that sometimes, our own perceptions of ourselves can be completely off-base. It’s like that scene from Mean Girls where Cady is looking at herself in the mirror and only seeing those things wrong with her.
Our innate need to always put a premium on the resource that is scarcest can play tricks on us when we’re evaluating how attractive we are.
We look at our great traits as insignificant and place those we don’t have — but find in others — in high regard.
We all have our own insecurities and doubts when it comes to our attractiveness, but what if I told you that you might be more attractive than you think?
Let’s explore these signs and explain why they are a true indication of your attractiveness.
1. People Love Being Around You
This one was inspired by my friend Jennifer.
Now, Jenny isn’t the type of person that you would immediately notice in a crowd. She’s not super tall, doesn’t have striking features, and she doesn’t dress extravagantly.
But, whenever we go out, people always seem to want to be around her. I used to think that it was because I was with her, and people just wanted to talk to me.
But, after a while, I realized that it was all her. People were drawn to her energy, her sense of humor, and her kindness.
It turns out people found her more attractive than she gave herself credit for. She’s always been modest about her appearance, but her personality is what makes her shine.
According to a study published in Europe’s Journal of Psychology, we tend to be attracted to people we find attractive, even if we are not consciously aware of it.
So, if you find that people love being around you, it might be because you have those positive qualities that make you attractive. Maybe you’re a good listener, have a great sense of humor, or are just an all-around nice person.
2. You’re a Compliment Magnet
We often feel compelled to share our appreciation for the beauty we see in others.
Sure, people can be nice and give compliments for no reason, but if you’re getting them all the time, there must be something about you that they find attractive.
Maybe it’s your sparkling personality or your infectious smile. Or maybe it’s the way you carry yourself with confidence and grace. Whatever it is, people are drawn to it, and that’s a good thing.
Of course, it can be easy to brush off compliments and think that people are just being polite. But here’s the thing: if you’re truly not attractive, people are unlikely to give you compliments just for the sake of it.
So, if you find yourself being showered with compliments left and right, it’s time to take a step back and realize that you might be more attractive than you think. If your friends, colleagues, or even strangers shower you with compliments, it’s high time you start believing them.
3. Your Smile Lights Up a Room
Have you ever been around a baby who smiles and suddenly everything just feels brighter? That’s the power of a smile!
A baby’s smile is like a burst of sunshine on a cloudy day, and it can make everyone around them feel happier.
The same goes for you!
Your smile has the power to light up a room and make everyone feel better. When you smile, your face lights up, your eyes sparkle, and your entire demeanor changes. It’s like a ray of sunshine breaking through the clouds on a dreary day.
In fact, studies show that 57% of Americans would rather have a nice smile than clear skin. And 24% of Americans say the teeth are what they remember most about someone after meeting them.
When you have a great smile, people can’t help but be drawn to you. It’s almost like a magnetic force that pulls people toward you. They want to be around you, to bask in the warmth of your smile, and feel the joy that radiates from you.
4. You Embrace Your Flaws
Nobody’s perfect, and the sooner you embrace your so-called “flaws,” the more attractive you’ll become. Imperfections can make us unique, endearing, and downright lovable. When you own your quirks with confidence, you project an air of authenticity that others find incredibly appealing.
5. Your Confidence Is Infectious
We often underestimate the power of confidence. Just like yawning, confidence can be contagious. When you’re comfortable in your own skin and radiate self-assuredness, others around you can’t help but be drawn in.
When you’re confident, you radiate a positive energy that others can’t help but pick up on. It’s like a contagious virus, but in a good way.
Your confidence can inspire others to feel better about themselves and their own abilities. People are naturally drawn to others who exude confidence because it makes them feel good about themselves too.
The thing about confidence is that it’s not just about how you look, but it’s also about how you feel. When you feel good about yourself, it shows on the outside.
Your body language, your tone of voice, and your overall demeanor are all affected by your level of confidence. And when you’re confident, you naturally attract others towards you.
6. You Have a Kind Heart
Studies show that altruistic people are often perceived as more attractive, and it’s no wonder why.
When you genuinely care for others and show empathy, it can create a halo effect that makes you more appealing in the eyes of those around you. So keep on spreading those good vibes and let your inner beauty shine.
7. You take care of yourself
Taking care of yourself is like investing in yourself, and it pays off in more ways than one.
You might think that your morning run or your nightly skincare routine is just a way to stay healthy or unwind after a long day, but it’s also a way to boost your attractiveness.
Think about it this way:
When you take care of yourself, you feel better about yourself, and that confidence shines through. People are drawn to individuals who exude confidence, and that includes physical attractiveness.
Hence, when you take care of yourself, not only do you feel better, but you also look better to others. It’s a win-win situation!
Being attractive isn’t solely about having the perfect face or body; it’s a combination of confidence, personality, and how you make others feel when they’re around you.
If you can relate to the signs listed above, chances are you’re more attractive than you give yourself credit for.
Embrace your unique qualities and let your true attractiveness shine through. After all, as the old saying goes, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” and you might just be the eye-catching gem they’re looking for.