We all understand the importance of using protection during sex. Not only does it help to reduce the risk of unplanned pregnancies, but it also protects you and your partner from the transmission of sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Despite these risks, some people still choose to engage in unprotected sex. In this article, we’ll delve into the various reasons why some guys — specifically — might prefer unprotected and remind you of the importance of using protection every time you have sexual activity.
Note that while some of these are legit and some are just flimsy excuses, none of them are justifiable excuses for not using protection.
1. Physical sensation
Perhaps, the number one reason why a lot of guys may like unprotected is that they assume it reduces pleasure.
Let’s face it, we all enjoy the intimacy and closeness that comes with skin-to-skin contact during sex.
While condoms can help to prevent the transmission of STIs and unintended pregnancies, they can also create a barrier between you and your partner. And for some guys (and girls), this barrier can make sex feel less intimate and less enjoyable.
2. He thinks it interrupts the spontaneity
Let’s face it, most times we don’t control how sex goes. And this spontaneity is what makes it fun. Some people never get in the mood if the whole act is too planned and controlled. And this is precisely why a lot of guys prefer unprotected.
Using protection often entails pausing halfway into steamy foreplay. And that’s not fun for most people.
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3. Risk perception
Some guys may not believe that they are at risk of STIs or unplanned pregnancy, and therefore may not see the need to use protection.
This lack of risk perception can be due to a variety of factors, including a lack of education about sexual health, a belief that they are in a monogamous relationship, or just a bias that makes them feel they cannot be victims to any of the downsides of not using protection.
4. A lack of self-control
It requires a level of self-control to be able to use protection sometimes. And this is because using protection often requires you to pull out in the heat of foreplay and take a step back.
A guy who doesn’t know how to pull the brakes when he’s already in the mood will not be able to stop halfway after foreplay to use protection.
To a large extent, it requires a good understanding of the consequences of unprotected sex before you can appreciate the importance of using protection.
In other words, you have to be more rational than impulsive.
But an immature guy is more likely to choose the impulse of jumping to sex during the heat of things than try to be rational and put on protection.
It takes maturity to understand how an unwanted pregnancy or an infection can greatly impact your life. But an immature mind will only think of the pleasure that’s in front of him — or her — at the moment.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that every guy who refuses to use protection is immature. You’ll have to check out for other signs of immaturity to pick this as the reason why he wants unprotected.
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6. Lack of access
The bigger the barrier we have to using something, the less likely we are to use it. This is why productivity apps work.
Even the habit of simply putting your phone out of reach before sleep makes you less likely to use it immediately after you wake up from sleep (or during work).
It’s just the same for sex as well. A guy who doesn’t have access to places where he can get condoms is more likely to just chill about using it altogether.
7. Alcohol or substance use
Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant that can impair judgment, decision-making, and self-control. It can also lower inhibitions and make people more prone to taking risks that they might not normally take.
When it comes to sexual behavior, alcohol can make people more likely to engage in risky or unprotected sex because they are less able to consider the potential consequences of their actions.
But this isn’t just true for alcohol. The frequent use of any form of stimulating substance, like hard drugs, etc., can make a guy less likely to think straight and control himself.
This means that if he’s frequently under the influence of these substances, it could be the major reason why he keeps having unprotected with you.
It takes a degree of responsibility to make sure you use protection during sex. A guy who is used to being careless and irresponsible may not feel the need to — or may even forget to — use a condom during sex.
If this is the case, then you might be the one to take the responsibility to remind him to take caution before the act.
9. He may not know where or how to get it
This may sound crazy, but it’s true. Some guys don’t use protection because they still don’t know how to go about getting it.
I’ve come across guys who get to a pharmacy and find it difficult to voice that they want to buy a condom. The extreme of this is guys who can’t get themselves to go to a pharmacy and tell someone they want a condom.
10. Personal preference
Using condoms or other forms of protection can be inconvenient or uncomfortable for some people.
For instance, some guys may find it difficult to put a condom on correctly, or may be allergic to latex. He may simply not like the feeling of condoms or other forms of protection.
Bonus point: The relationship dynamics
In some cases, the power dynamics within a relationship may influence the decision to have unprotected sex.
For instance, if one partner has more power or influence in the relationship, he (or she) may feel more able to push for unprotected sex, even if the other partner is not comfortable with it.
This can be especially true if there is a lack of trust or open communication in the relationship, as one partner may feel unable to express their desires or boundaries around sex.
Furthermore, some ladies are just more emotionally vulnerable than others. And in times of stress or emotional vulnerability, they may make decisions that they normally wouldn’t, including the decision to have unprotected sex.
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It’s not accurate to say that all guys — or only guys — like unprotected sex. In fact, most people prefer to use some form of protection to reduce the risk of STIs and unintended pregnancy.
However, there may be some people who engage in unprotected sex for various reasons, such as feeling more pleasure or wanting to feel a stronger emotional connection with their partner.
As difficult as it might be sometimes, it’s important for partners to be aware of the risks and to make responsible decisions about their sex life.